I wish everyone involved in the court system had to Research and learn about the insane, heartbreaking effects narsassic parents can cause their children.
When a narsassit wins in court, even if it’s less than joint custody they will use it to drive the other parent crazy and will use the children in awful ways. The other parent then becomes a frightened “mother bear” and freaks. What do u do to protect your babies when the court can’t see it? The court hears his lies and has never seen the ugly truth you have. It’s scary. No one wins.
So I’m hoping to reach anyone out there and ask them to please educate yourself on this real problem. It’s big, it seems to be happening more and more, and it’s time we all take notice.
So what does a narsassit do to hurt your children besides the obvious?
Damages to the Child
In human development, the child-parent bond can be extremely strong. If a healthy relationship and bond has developed, there is not much that will keep a child from their parent. Not even one parent trying to ‘brainwash’ a child against the other parent is very credible at all as a possibility involving a child declining to have contact with a parent. Some in the field consistently underestimate children’s ego strength and feel that they are always simply clay in the hands of the NPD parent. A child’s public behaviors may not reflect their private thoughts, understandings, and genuine loyalties. The truth is that NPD parents will often complain about ‘parental alienation’ coming from the other parent, and is the one who has done the most to alienate the child from themselves, not the other parent. So, when a child is refusing to have contact with the NPD parent, and the other parent is taken to court to blame for this, it is a true ‘red herring’. A close look at the child’s complaints will reveal the truth.
Placing a child on the witness stand (in front of the NPD parent, of course), plays right into the hands of the delighted NPD. Most people not versed in this disorder have no clue of how clever, powerful, and abusive an NPD parent is, and how absolutely terrified the child is and how totally under the NPD’s control they are. All the NPD has to do is look at the child, and the child will ‘fold’ under any questions, agreeing with the NPD’s version of things. (My son got the look a lot)
Essentially, in comparison to the power of the NPD parent, the child has no confidence at all that the court has their (the child’s) interest or safety at heart, or that the court even remotely has the ability to protect them from the NPD. In truth, to the child (and the ex), the NPD has the power of God. Really.
The level of psychological abuse, manipulation, true brainwashing, terrorizing, demoralizing, self-esteem destroying that an NPD parent does to their child is hard to wrap your head around. NPD’s seem to be born with the skills of the best torturer imaginable. There is no polite way to put it: when a court insists that a resisting child have contact with the NPD, the court is participating in child abuse. Kids are not property to be divided, and they have brains. If a child is refusing to have contact with a parent, look very closely at that parent.